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Generational Curses

breaking generational curses

Have you ever wondered why members of your family seem to all suffer from the same battles? Maybe it’s alcohol, cheating, abuse, suicide, insecurities, etc. that seems to play through your family line on repeat generation through generation. It’s almost like you can predict what is going to happen because you have witnessed it through stories your great grandparents, grandparents, and parents have told you. Why does this happen?

Is it a conincidence?

Possibly, or maybe it is a generational curse.

A generational curse is mentioned by some bible believers in reference to Exodus 34:5-7 which reads in the NIV version

5 Then The Lord came down in the cloud and stood there with him and proclaimed his name The Lord. 6 And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The Lord, The Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, 7 maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation.”

What are your thought about this?

For those of you that are spiritual or religious this might bring in insight from your biblical learning? This type of belief definitely will add more controversy to the topic. No one is right or wrong here in this article discussion yet something to think about.

I have heard people make statements like “you are just like your daddy, he was no good and you will be just like him”. Some might say there is life and death in the power of the tongue. Others might say that there is nothing that can be done because history just repeats itself over and over again.

Can the cycle be broken from generation to generation?

There are talk shows that have guests that are seeking help for various issues, and it is often interesting to find that the issues don’t stem from issues of present but those deeply rooted in the past. Sometimes we think we have overcome an issue but it is just hidden, buried deep, just waiting to be exposed. Buried hurt doesn’t heal, the scars only thicken and get tougher. And when the scar is finally exposed it hurts greater than ever, often causing more destruction than the initial wound.

Let’s consider this.

Is the son of an abuser destined to be an abuser? Is the daughter of a prostitute destined to follow the same path?

I’m sure some may say yes, while others say no.

Does causing the hurt to another or to self, heal the hurt a person is feeling?

Throughout our family history do people just turn their head and ignore the family patterns that are straining the family line or do they learn from them and travel a different path? Is there a way out?

This month Kokoa is focusing on various topics related to history. Does your family history includes generational curses? Tell us about how you or others have overcome. I’m listening.

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  • I definitely believe in generational curses. However, in the Bible a generational curse is punishment and doesn’t mean that if you are a thief your children will follow suit. Instead, their punishment for your sin would most likely be the opposite. They’d be the victim of whatever crime you committed.

    At th end of the day if you sell drugs and your kids grow up to do the same that is not a curse that is just lack of being a good role model. Children live by what they see. So, that is a manner of setting a better example but we often look at it as a curse from God when the reality is He had nothing to do with that. He gives us all free will. The examples we set & choose to follow are up to us.

  • No, I don’t believe in generational curses. 1 thing about studying scripture that I’ve found is that you can’t take 1 scripture alone or out of context or it will leave one with conclusions that aren’t accurate. Ezekiel Ch 18 read in its entirety shows this not to be true as well as many NT scriptures. Will others have to deal w’ the consequences of our sins sometimes? Yes Cursed?No
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  • These post speaks so personally to me. My family I’m sure like many African-American families do not acknowledge generational curses, addictions, etc. They instead treat one another as though everything is okay, when some clearly should seek professional help for their issues. Being that I have a close relationship with God, I’ve been able to begin the path of changing those things for my future family. I rebuke the chains of depression and other issues deeply rooted in my family. I pray they all overcome them, so they don’t spend their lives muttering through.
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  • Yes, I do believe there are generational curses, and one must fight hard to overcome them. Are we doomed to repeat them? I say no–if we are aware of what they are.

  • Very interesting topic. I believe the curses can be broken because I’ve witnessed it both positive and negative. I’ve seen upstanding citizens raise psychos and I’ve seen children raised in less than humble upbringings bring the boom in their adult life. I think people are just people. Different people observe and learn from experiences different nuggets to take them through life. Your upbringing can be negative or positive and still result in your life being negative OR positive. That’s my opinion of course!
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  • Regardless of whether you believe it is a curse, it makes sense to me that family members make the same mistakes as there older relatives. You learn what you live and sometimes it is learned behavior that you are not even aware of. The people that break the cycle are the ones who see the issues and make a conscious effort to change it.
    Thanks for posing the question. Definitely gets you thinking!
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  • I believe that generational curses can be broken. Sure, sins of the father will be visited upon the son, but I think as an AFFECT not as an EFFECT. A child can’t help but be touched by what their parents have done. But I don’t believe it defines their destiny. President Obama said in his recent State of the Union address that he became President despite having a single mom, that the daughter of a factory worker has become CEO of General Motors, and the son of a barkeeper is Speaker of the House. Anything is possible if you try.
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  • I believe there is a connection to the past. I wouldn’t say there is a curse. I just think that in some way something is passed down. Maybe it is people repeating what they have seen but there are also some people who take what they see and then steer away from it. So I don’t think things have to be repeated so there for not a curse.

  • Yeah girl, I’ve written about this very same phenomenon myself before and I’m certainly trying to break the “curse” of poverty for my niece and nephew. My goal is to leave a legacy, something they can take and continue to grow if they want, something other than bills and debt that others have to take care of!
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  • I think there are curses in families, but they most definitely can be broken. They do not necessarily have to be carried on in future generations. Some of the breaking of curses is spiritual, but some of it is a determination by individuals not to willingly choose to walk the same path as their forbears.
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